Watch your thoughts and emotions carefully— as if you were watching someone else… as if you were watching a movie starring ‘you.’ Feel the loneliness, fully, allowing it to hang out. Don’t rush to do something (meditate, pray, pour a glass of wine, workout, strike a yoga pose, grab a book, a snack, your phone, etc) to suppress, remedy or ignore it. Just let the loneliness be, the way you let the couch, table and walls be. Unlike the ‘loneliness’, those objects are neutral to you, that’s why you don’t care that they are present.
(1) STOP 🛑
(2) take your attention out of your head (and thoughts) and down into your stomach— notice how it rises and falls with each breath…
(3) notice that, down here, in your stomach, there are no thoughts… just space
Starting tomorrow morning, make a commitment to be present as an objective audience to your inner voice. Like, instead of being ‘the thinker’ of the thoughts, be ‘the listener’ behind them. It’s a simple but necessary shift that you’ll have to keep remembering— just keep falling back and reminding yourself to watch yourself like you’re watching a movie about someone else.