Its very existence becomes dysfunctional— the things that used to work, like crawling, suddenly don’t work anymore. And if the caterpillar was like us, it would be stressed out and desperately trying to hold it together— reading books on how to become better at caterpillaring or techniques on crawling better and faster.
That general uneasiness that’s always lingering in the background? It’s just a symptom of your forgetfulness. When you forget who you really are, you feel scared, you worry, you stay on edge, hella moody, ready to snap. You don’t even know why! You also stay trying to manipulate & rearrange the outside circumstances in hopes that you’ll feel better. But there’s only one real ‘fix.’ No matter the presenting problem, be it physical, mental or financial, there’s only one remedy- you must remember your true self BEYOND just the natural hair wearing, no shit taking, education having woman in the mirror.
You probably don’t know the ‘how’ or the ‘when,’ but you always know the ‘WHAT.’ And I’m not talking about the weight loss, the ring, or the bank account, I’m talking about the reason WHY you want that stuff… the happiness, the peace, the joy, the comfort and security you think you’re gonna have when you finally get it. But if you’ve been actually reading my posts, you already know that the only way to be happy, is to be happy, now. ‘
Are you ready to commit to loving your Self, unconditionally? To being HER, your truest Self, no matter what’s going on, or how you feel? You should, because everything else, including the healthy, romantic relationship you thought this post was about, will follow.
To ‘say nothing negative’ means to catch yourself not only talking poorly about yourself, but thinking negatively as well. I’d like to throw gossiping in too, because what you think and how you feel about others is a reflection of the judgments you have about yourself.